Two of my younger male relatives have recently been engaged to white women, and one tied the knot last summer.
This is a pattern that I have observed in my professional life for years: successful black men pairing up with white women, but now that the practice has come home to roost, so to speak, I cannot help but admit to feeling a bit demoralized.
But this collection of happily ever after stories does not mean that love is blind.
Romantic attraction is subject to the larger social forces of racial prestige and stigma that swirl all around us, and in this environment, black women are losing out.
On a recent visit, I goy to look at the beautiful homes and fun "scene" in uptown but I didn't notice much cross-cultural interaction so I am curious if, in general, people hang out in racially mixed groups often?With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I cannot help but dwell on who might be coming to dinner.Last holiday season gave me plenty of food for thought on this all too familiar and often uncomfortable racially-tinged question.One of my male relatives brought home a date for Thanksgiving who could have been Barbie's twin sister.She was blonde, thin, big-bosomed, and even had a Germanic name.