Sadly, their intense interest in you is more so about them and their needs than it is about you. They fluctuate between adoring you and devaluing you: People with narcissistic tendencies are very hot and cold.
They can be mean and critical one second and then sweet and loving the next.
It turns into a vicious cycle and the more you get into a relationship, the harder it is to get out of.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist will make you feel crazy and most narcissists actually don't actively leave relationships; they wait to be left first.
If you get an idea of the dating history of someone and it follows a certain pattern, pay attention to that.
Yes, people can change, but past relationship patterns can raise a lot of red flags.
The most important thing to remember is that it's not about YOU.
Shocked that he could move on so quickly from something so serious she exclaims. People recovering from narcissistic relationships are often in shock that someone who once claimed to love them so much has moved on so quickly and without any sense of remorse.
How to spot a narcissist: I always tell my clients to take the time to really get to know the people they are dating before getting too emotionally invested or putting all their eggs in one basket.
This person is so into you and lavishes you with attention, romance and gifts.
The relationship moves very quickly and it feels like you have met "the one." Months down the road when things have settled in comfortably, things start to change.