Now, does this mean if you get a long mane of golden locks stapled to your head, you can get with this girl?
Or is she telling you that she values youthfulness and wildness in a man?
And the tragedy about this particular field of fibbing is that WOMEN DON'T KNOW THEY'RE LYING WHEN THEY DO IT! What I'm talking about here is when a woman tells you what she finds attractive in a man. There's a girl we like, and we try to do our homework to find out what she likes in a guy.
Inevitably, we hear things like: Yet, no matter what, we will always see the exact same woman who just told us what she likes in guys go for a man who is THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT SHE TOLD YOU SHE FINDS ATTRACTIVE. See, it's true that women are attracted to the qualities they list. Let's say a woman tells you she finds tall men attractive, and you feel like she'd never go for you because you're 5"2 on a good day.
That will let you know what she REALLY responds to!
So let's say there's a girl you like who says she only likes guys with long hair, and you happen to be balding.
The research findings can be summarized as followings: 1.
The most evident problem involves its use of several categories (plus a few photos) for the daters to predict and decide the effectiveness and success of their further interactions with one another.All categories are just the maps or substitutes of social reality, not the reality itself.When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other's real communications, they will produce two outcomes: a), avoiding love from right individuals, and, b) approaching the wrong person(s).The answer is that mostly they have the dysfunctional mind, with the emotional baggage of fear, anxiety or other mental conflicts and past hurts in interpersonal situations.They fear experiencing invalidation from the target of attraction because they use superficial categories to define the self and others as well as to predict the effectiveness of their possible relationships, ignoring the affection messages from the real people who are attracted them.